Pleasure I Am
The life we experience around us, the life we know as our own, this ever changing environment we interact with each moment, is the reaction to ourselves -our personal understanding of occurrence. Our '“personal pleasure palace” of I AM we ordain as, our lives.
What is interesting is that pain is the other side of pleasure. Pain is not present when we are experiencing happiness, so we must be clear in the defining of our pleasure(s) as at times this can be challenging.
Pleasure or to please in measure is the reality as we live day to day, believing we are "to please" ourselves and measure this to others. Pleasure is the only thing we can seemingly control, by setting goals, making plans, preparation toward some future interaction and pleasure is fleeting, illusionary happiness. Pleasure will not last because it is not real.
In pleasure you seek, the name of that game is the running from pain as these are emotions ( E-Motion = Energy in Motion ) and are not separate from one another, they are the same thing.. Pain and Pleasure, 2 sides of the same coin.
Pleasure is our emotional reactionary construct in an attempt to equal or overtake pain.
The pain I am not good enough, ultimately I am not worthy of love, drives us toward a satisfaction through completion of achievement of pleasure, we subconsciously believe this will keep us from pain, in other words this feeling of pleasure becomes our only happiness.
This is so, as we are building our story, our life story, the story of us, we are using the habitual experience of pain and pleasure as the foundation.
Never truly identifying your born gifted skill(s) or ever actualizing your balanced life purpose.
Happiness can NOT be planned, it cannot be worked toward, it cannot be a goal. EVER. Yes pleasure can be and that’s the world were cultivating now. I have written in the past that pain allows growth and this is true on many levels as pain is the awakening from our sleep cycle we live day to day, the comfort we found in our little habitual pleasures in accordance with our habitual emotional pain or dis-comfort.
When we have exhausted ourselves from this pleasure seeking existence, we will see that happiness has been with us the whole ride, as pleasure becomes a ride and not a choice, as this is our reaction to pain and not a response to it. there is a difference.
Reaction can be defined as a fractured past future equivalent to a given situation, defined by our pain and doomed to be repeated.
Response or Response-able is the present wholistic engagement in which tools can be evolved within us.
Happiness or acceptance is not always with us or available to us, it IS us.
From the moment you were born into this body you were balanced, whole, enough.. you wouldn’t have be born other wise! the moment you started holding onto emotional occurrences would be the moment you started pleasure seeking and focusing on the imbalance or imperfect nuances you believe about yourself.. the i’m not enough to be worthy of love and acceptance.
The present moment. See happiness is what happens when your not looking, when your not planning, but Present. Happiness is spontaneous and can never be taken away, so there is no fear of loosing it, therefore no pain attached to it, as you will come to find this spontaneous flow we call happiness is you. ( you are already what you seek, you just have to allow it )
We historically don’t allow pain, we run from it to pleasure(s) I’m speaking of emotional pain or trauma as this again governs or pleasure seeking.
Practice a state of being aware of your pleasure seeking habits that have truly become your life experience(s) and recognize to NOT BE CONDITIONED by your surroundings.. or other peoples reactions favorable or otherwise to, respectful or otherwise, in agreement or not to your choices.
Respect is the wanting of the pleasure seeker, as the moment you feel they respect you, is your pleasure moment that you are enough.
I feel that this word respect is conditionally misunderstood. To respect someone is to know yourself as happiness not pleasure. We don’t “respect” one another because our highest most accomplished self is recognized by another, the present true self realizes this attainment of pleasure is an illusion -not real and it hurts because we are "spending" our lives chasing this pleasure which in turn becomes our pain!
You see we seek pleasure/respect to escape the pain of not being enough and it is the very thing that also creates our pain.
Remember pleasure is not necessarily the new material item large or small, food, sexual partner or promotion, winning the game or being number one, pleasure is this feeling we could call respect.. the I AM worthy.. worthy of love from my surroundings, my life.. As these feelings we call pleasure and respect seem to be one in the same, the other side of pain. So as we chase “respect” the illusionary I AM.. truly the I AM of pain and fear as it is the I AM that is fleeting… Once again in need of filling, just as pleasure is.
We must have this understanding and know that Happiness occurs when we stop chasing pleasure, it cannot be planned for.. Happiness is an allowing, allowing yourself to LET GO of pleasure.. to face and let go of emotional pain.. You will then know that Happiness, Acceptance and Love is the only true I AM in each present moment. ~growinflow